What Stress?!

Recently we experienced a series of events and life changes NOT recommended when you have Parkinson's! Jamey's symptoms were really put to the test, and I fear they scored a low D! But we are hoping he can re-test when this is all over, and get higher marks. LOL

Read on, and heed this advice. It could some day save your life! (or at the very least, ready you for an unexpected increase in symptoms).

It started in September, when chief care-partner and wife (me), broke her back. And I can tell you from experience, the emergency room in a hospital is not the place you want to be in the middle of a Pandemic (close to 6 hours and I never got a bed or a med)!  Apparently, that wasn't enough for the mean-hoofed man-beast with the pitchfork. In the midst of this Covid crisis, we were unable to get adequate help for Jamey (in place of me), because so many caregivers were not working. So we called on friends and neighbors, many of whom feared unknowingly exposing us to a far more deadly disease. So help was sporadic at best.

To top that off, we had been told an apartment we'd been waiting for in a retirement community, had just opened up and we needed to move in the next few weeks if we wanted that floor plan (which we did). Yikes! In the midst of this pandemic, we had to sell the house, purge lots of "stuff" (we went from 1700 square feet to a little over 900), pack boxes with a broken back and a guy in wheelchair, hire a mover, and make home repairs requested by the inspector. Stress? Just a little! Remember, we're in the middle of a Pandemic, so Goodwill and other charities are 'itchy' about accepting items (long waits and lots of rules), flea markets are not running, movers have hiked up their fees and yadda, yadda, yadda.

A nice surprise in all of this; our house went on the market, had steady interest, and sold in just 5 days! That was a lovely bright spot amidst an otherwise bleak couple of months.There were quite a few issues the inspector found (they don't miss a thing do they?) so I enlisted help from friends, as handymen had also cut their hours during the outbreak. 

So, we got packed, got things repaired, found a mover who specializes in moving seniors, and were ready to go. The day of the move added to our stress. The three men who moved us were reckless with our possessions, used foul language and other than one young man, were fairly irresponsible. We ended up with many broken items, and two things actually never made it into our new home. Not sure where they ended up; probably on the highway somewhere, along with all of the single shoes and mattresses. 

We were exhausted but we were in. The next day, I went back to the old place to clean, and found Jamey's computer and several other items, still there in what used to be his Man Cave. Good thing I went back (and no, those weren't the missing items)!

We were finally in the new place! Whew! That should have been the beginning of a beautiful friendship, right? Well, even though the new apartment is accessible, that doesn't mean it's all gonna be a breeze! Maneuvering around unpacked boxes and getting accustomed to a new place, all takes its toll on a PD sufferer. We tried to get it all unpacked and off the floor as quickly as we could, but I was limited because of the back brace and general pain fatigue, and Jamey was limited being in the chair. It took much longer than it normally would have, but, with help, we did get most of it done. Of course, I was thinking once that was done, the PD symptoms would go back to pre-move status. Right? Ha! "You just keep thinking, Butch. That's what your'e good at!" 

So many things can throw PD into a spiral. In our case, it was a multitude of things. Poor Jamey wasn't sleeping more than a couple of hours each night, his shaking had increased, and his body stiffness and freezing gait was all but constant. There really wasn't anything I could do for him, but keep him calm and take as much off his mental plate as possible. Thankfully, once the stress is gone, the body does begin its slow healing process. 

Obviously, we can't put life on hold because we have Parkinson's. But it's important to be aware that things may change when one is under stress. There will be periods of time where the disease will exhibit much greater symptoms and the need for assistance and rest will be greater than usual. The Pandemic is stressful enough, but add to that any other life events, and your Parkinson's indicators could be quite a bit worse. The key is to try and keep the household calm, and take the stress off the PD suffers as much as possible. Not always easy if the care-partner is also under pressure, but it's important to do what you can to keep the symptoms at bay as much as possible. Every life event impacts us; those will PD, even more so. You may have to buy additional medical aids to help with body movements, but it's all part of the process. Be willing to find aids that alleviate mobility disorders, and work to move the body along. Be patient and persistent!   

It has been about five weeks now, and Jamey's symptoms are just beginning to get better. We're still working on recovery from the consequences of this big move, but it's getting better every day. He will likely never function as well as he did before all of this, but we know this move was the right thing for us both. My back took much longer to heal (in fact, the break got bigger before it started healing) because I had to continue to lift him and assist in transfers, but is it getting stronger every day. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and as always with any disease, we're keeping the hope alive for a cure! Always hold to hope. It is what will get you through any crisis. Because, we are all part of a big working machine and we don't want our world to get so small that we miss the bigger picture! You'll have black holes; sometimes you'll climb right out, other times, you'll be in there awhile, but you'll always have the great creator in there with you, so take heart!

If you haven't already signed up for PANC Conference this year, please do so. It's Saturday, October 24 and it's virtual so no need to go anywhere. The nice thing about it being virtual is that you can visit in and out all day long from the comfort of your own home. Sign up at https://www.panctoday.org/2020-annual-conference.html.

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Can You Hear Me Now?

In 2006 Jamey had DBS brain surgery to keep his Parkinson's symptoms at bay, at least temporarily. There have been benefits as well as drawbacks. Before surgery, the nurse practitioner, along with a group of doctors who specialize in this surgery, sat us down and educated us about the possible side effects of this serious procedure. While most of these issues had a very low percentage of occurrence, we still needed to be informed of all possible outcomes of the surgery. Something every doctor should do.

We both listened intently about the possibility of language problems, brain infection, programming shut-offs when going through airports, difficulty walking later on, and more. Most of these things were considered very unlikely (.5 to 1% range). All of the issues were a concern to us, but not a worry so intense we couldn't overcome them with faith. So we went ahead with the surgery, and over all, it's been helpful. We were told the benefits would only last about 5 years, but here we are in year 14 and he is still getting some advantages with programming the electrodes.

But, apparently, the unwanted results the original team listed, were not exhaustive. All these years later, Jamey has been presented with a  side effect that neither of us remember them mentioning; RFI (Radio Frequency Interference). Yes. His brain electrodes have actually become conductors for the internet!

Last week, he had all of his devices going; three computer monitors, a tablet, and a laptop. Now don't ask me why on earth he would need all of those devices on at the same time--I have never figured out the male mind where technology is concerned--but apparently it was the perfect storm for reception in his brain. He immediately heard a very high pitched hum inside his head. He likened the sound to the shriek you might get if you struggle with tinnitus, but more like a continual static hum. This unusual sound was coming from inside his brain! And it was reacting to the images on his computer screen. When an image on his screen changed, so did the tone in his brain. This happened several more times in perfect choreography with whatever was happening on his monitor; evidence it was not coincidental.

So, I'm thinking if we figure out the right sequence, add drums and bass, he can have a little jam session in his skull. Well, I thought it was pretty cool, but admittedly, I'm not the one with the annoying sound playing inside my head. I do wish he could have intercepted a full-on conversation from a space station or something, but I guess that's asking a lot.

I don't know if this new experience is a pro or a con. But I'm thankful that when the end of the world hits, we won't need to take along a hand-crank radio to keep up on what's happening. We'll simply put Jamey under a power line and listen to his brain for updates!

The Mask!

Jamey hadn't been out in over 2 months, other than once to his sister's house for a game night. Nothing where he had to wear a mask. He'd seen me make numerous trips to the market with my mask in tow, but he'd never had occasion to wear one himself.

So, he finally had a routine doctor appointment scheduled for his Botox treatment (well overdue because of sheltering). He didn't own a mask because there had been no need up till now. With his COPD I was a little apprehensive about him wearing one and impeding his breathing. But, since it was required, I whipped him up one to match his power chair--black and orange with Giant's logos all over it. This is not an easy undertaking when there is absolutely NO 1/4" elastic left available in the world. Okay, ties
it is. At least with this one he can make a fashion statement.

When it was finished, I tried it on him. Oh, boy, I knew we were in trouble. He couldn't even stand to wear it for the few seconds I tested it. So, like any other loving wife and caregiver, I told him he was gonna have to get over himself and suck it up. I'm sure he'd heard this plenty from his coaches while playing on the many teams as an athlete. Right? Well, it didn't go over well, but he did realize he would have to 'just do it!'

So, we drove the hour to Sacramento and I unloaded him. When I put the mask on him, he promptly pulled it down off his nose. I told him it's supposed to be worn over the nose and he replied that he knew it. I left it at that because I figured Kaiser would put the kibosh his "viral style" when we entered the hospital. Nope, he sailed right on in. Past the questions-askers, past the temperature-takers, past the hand-sanitizer-sprayers. Whew, he made it. Now, we just had to get to the doctor and then he could take it off. I think he was hoping his Neurologist would cut him some slack because he's known him for so long and really likes Jamey.

We had checked ahead of time whether I could go in with him, because the instructions said patient only. But, because I often have to translate for him, I was waived. Of course, the waiting room was set up for Covid 19--proper 6 foot spacing around chairs, reception area  completely covered in plexi-glass. When the receptionist handed me my receipt, he actually had to crack the window open 2" to slide it to me, without contacting my hand, of course.

We waited only about 3 minutes and were called in by his assistant, who was wearing a medical grade mask. So far, Jamey was still wearing his, but now pulled up over his nose, as required. Okay, now we wait for the doctor. It was less than 5 minutes before Dr. Khandar entered, also wearing a medical grade mask. He usually shakes our hands, but this time; no. Although he was as talkative and pleasant as always, he went right to work getting things ready for Jamey's shots. He made a point of telling Jamey not to lower the mask yet. Jamey was obedient. When it was time for the shots (in the face), he lowered Jamey's mask just enough to get the needle into the 5 places they needed to go. Then, he put the mask back up again (after wiping the small amount of blood off him). No reprieve yet!

After the shots had been administered, Doctor K sat and chatted about his family and what's going on with Covid and Parkinson's research (he usually converses with us at length, so this was not unusual). But, poor Jamey had to sit there with his mask on like a compliant child. I could tell he was getting antsy.

Whatever works!

After the appointment, we got ourselves together and went back out to the car. Jamey actually left his mask on until we arrived at the car! Even I wanted to pull mine off when I got outside. I was very proud of him, and he didn't complain once, even though I know he hated it.

He did say he found it difficult to read the doctor's expressions and facial expressions with the mask on. He hadn't realized how much he depends on those cues to converse with people. All in all, the appointment went well. Now, he has to have an annual physical, virtually. I imagine that will be quite an experience as well, but at least he won't have to wear a mask!

GRATITUDE

In this time of COVID-19 an article about gratitude seems laughable. Instead, as we are each sheltering at home and limiting our social contact, it is easy to feel frustrated and depressed about the entire world and about our own world in particular. This brings to mind a speaker who spoke to the Renaissance Society at California State University, Sacramento, in March 2019. Dr. Robert A. Emmons, a professor at University of California Davis has spent the last 20 years scientifically studying the effect of gratitude on the well-being of individuals. Perhaps some of the things he shared will help put a different perspective on our current challenges.

Gratitude is an affirmation of the goodness around us and the recognition that this goodness is sourced outside of ourselves. Think of and be grateful for the grocery store staff and the medical personnel who are currently putting themselves at risk to help others.

Gratitude works emotionally, psychologically, and physically. It increases our emotional well-being. Studies show that grateful people get along better with others, they are less depressed and they are more resilient to trauma. Although gratitude won't make COVID-19 pass us by, it does have the power to help us heal, to energize, and to change our lives.

Medically speaking a person can practice gratitude without negative side effects. Research has shown that people who keep a gratitude journal have reduced blood pressure, experience better sleep, and are more likely to exercise and less likely to smoke. Gratitude leads to lower levels of inflammation in heat disease patients.

Why does gratitude work? Intentional gratitude amplifies the good in our lives, it reduces the bad in our lives and rescues us from negativity, and it builds trust in our relationships with others.

Gratitude doesn't come easily or naturally. We have to be intentional as we develop an attitude of gratitude. A concrete way to begin is by keeping a Gratitude Journal. Gratitude is POTENT in relationships; it also provides a good acronym for beginning our journals. Each day consider:

P - People who made a difference for us today
O - Opportunities we had today
T - Things: material goods such as home, transportation, food
E - Experiences we had today
N - Nature we can enjoy (some include [God] as part of nature)
T - Thoughts and our ability for reasoning, reflection, recall, awareness, recognition

If we choose to look at the world through grateful eyes, it will never be the same again. A grateful lens alters our gaze. Where we used to see burdens we can see some blessings, we used to see problems but now we see potential, adversities can now become opportunities. With Parkinson's Disease, this is a real challenge, but there are blessings and opportunities--find them and cling to them with gratitude.*


*Reprinted from The Parkinson Path PANC Newsletter Spring 2020.

Virtual Hug

It's the third week of the lock down, so I will attempt to post on our blog. But please forgive me as I wander along; my posting is sure to be a little disjointed as that is how I'm feeling these days as well.

Jamey's boxing coach has arranged several days a week for everyone to box and chat, virtually (Zoom app). It has been a blessing to be able to continue moving when we can, and still be in touch with fellow boxers in the class!  WW is also doing our workshop meetings with Zoom. It's been great! We don't feel like we're missing out on as much with this wonderful technology tool. Perhaps we all should have bought stock in Zoom before this whole thing started!

If this outbreak had happened even 20 years ago, we wouldn't have been able to do video chats, work from home, attend conference meetings, or do many of the things we are now taking for granted. It really is awesome. But, hopefully, the world will not choose to use this method after the outbreak is over. Even those who do not like hugging or personal contact, will surely miss the closeness of other people. God created humans to be in community. Separating from one another, even for a few months, is sure to take its toll on us all. I mean, a virtual hug, just isn't going to do it for most of us!

There are a couple of ways to look at this house-bound scenario; it's either going to bring people (families) closer to together, or it's going to drive a wedge into our relationships. Partners who are usually able to have time alone, are being forced to be together 24/7, and that can be a challenge for some. Perhaps, people are stronger than I think. I hope so. If not, we are going to have a lot of divorces when this whole thing is over. But, on the flip side...we might also have a lot of new babies; I mean, what else is there to do when you're stuck in the house all day?! 😊

Jamey and I have taken to playing more video games and/or board games together. We  spend time at opposite ends of the house; he in his man-cave, me in my she-shed, and then we meet in the middle, and do something together. It's been fun, but we ARE only in week three. Let's see how we feel on week four or five. 😃 I think balance is the key in all we do. Find something to do together, then, find something to do, just yourself. I realize not everyone has the space to separate like we do, but at this point, most of us can still go outside, so maybe that is an option.

Whatever you're doing, do it with patience and perspicacity, knowing seclusion, for the time being, is necessary to perhaps saving others. Find games to play, books to read, meals to cook, quilts to sew, prayers to pray, or whatever it takes to distract you. We are all in this together and we will all get through it together. We've been through some really tough stuff, so this is just another challenge on our way! God never said life was going to be easy, in fact He said it was going to hard;

 "...Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows, . but take heart, because I have overcome the world." John 16:33

I pray you are all holding onto that hope. I know we are!

The Stress Factor

I'm a little ashamed I haven't posted since well before Christmas. But, I suspect everyone else was as busy as we were during the holidays. I love Christmas and the winter season, but I enjoy getting back to normalcy just as much, I think!

As I believe I've said before, Parkinson's symptoms increase when stress is present. And  it doesn't need to be "bad" stress; it can be "good" stress as well. What I mean by that is, even stress like visiting people over holidays, or having grand-kids over, though it's enjoyable, can be stressful and lead to increased symptoms.

The holidays were filled with fun activities and lots of visiting with friends and family, but the aftermath, and even during some of it, often leaves Jamey exhausted and less mobile than usual. Of course, I forget about that and schedule plenty of events for us. Needless to say, it takes its toll on him. Thankfully, he's a pretty good sport about it and trudges along like a trooper.

To help your Parkinson's sufferers, cope a little better during bad stress, as well as good stress, take these things into consideration:

1. Try not to schedule more than one event in a day. Sometimes a doctor's appointment followed by a visit from the grand kids can be too much. Know your loved ones' limits.

2. Have a "safe" place where your loved one can remove themselves, when necessary, from the over-stimulation. Jamey's man cave and our master bedroom are at opposite ends of the house, so he is able to go to one or the other, and close the door when he needs to.

3. Include your loved one in the scheduling decisions when you can. Make sure your loved one knows the itinerary and what is planned for each day. Sometimes it might be necessary to tell them several times, to prepare them.

4. Talk about the event before hand and be sure you understand what your loved ones' desires are. Find out their expectations and make your decisions based on pros and cons of the event.

5. Know the difference between not wanting to participate and not being able to participate. It might sometimes be necessary to insist your loved one participate in something he or she doesn't want to do, for their own benefit. Talk it out before overloading the schedule.

6. Try not to schedule several days of events in a row. Leave a day or two of rest in between.

This biggest obstacle for us has been a tendency to drop out of things to protect ourselves from the exhaustion or added symptoms (I have the same issues because of stroke symptoms). So I urge you not to cut back completely. God created us for community and Christ modeled that well. It's important for our well being to participate in life as much as we can, to meet with friends, socialize and join in when possible.

Stress or no stress, keep moving and participating when you can. Movement and socialization are healing activities whether or not you feel it right away!